Funeral Home | Speaking Gently

You have arrived at the funeral home and are a bit nervous about being able to show support to the grieving family. You care very much about being there for them, but in your grief, are worried you may say the wrong thing. It’s understandable that during such times, we may forget or lose sight of how best to be of comfort to others at the funeral. Here is a short list of what not to say:

• “It’s probably a blessing/blessing in disguise.” This is not for us to judge.
• “At least they didn’t suffer/no longer suffer.”
• “I know how you feel.” Even if you both had a mother die, you should respect the idea that those grieving may have their own unique feelings.
• “You need to be strong for your kids.” This doesn’t allow the person to feel they can be vulnerable or grieve freely.
• “God won’t give you more than you can handle.” The grieving person may feel quite the opposite.
• “Everything happens for a reason.” This isn’t always easy to believe, especially when the loss is sudden.
• “It was their time.” It’s likely that loved ones wanted more time with the deceased, regardless of the fact. It is never easy to lose someone you love.

Here are some great alternatives of what to say at the funeral home – and after all ceremonies:

• “I’m so sorry this happened. Let me know how I can be of help.”
• “I’ll miss her/him, too. I’m ready to listen whenever you want to talk.”
• “I’m sorry for your loss. I love you. Let me know if ever need me for anything.”
• “You are so strong. But, I know this can be a trying time. I’m here to help you with any day-to-day concerns you may have.”

Mountain View Funeral Home and Cemetery believes the above suggestions will make it easy for you and the grieving to connect gracefully during this stressful time. Should you have questions about our funeral home or services, our caring staff can be reached at 480-832-2850.