When thinking about funeral homes Arizona and an upcoming funeral, the question often comes up about whether it is appropriate to bring children. There are varying opinions on this subject, as you can imagine. There are also certain circumstances that can determine whether or not children should be in attendance. But, being among funeral homes Arizona, we at Mountain View Funeral Home have some recommendations for you to consider:
Newborns or infants will get nothing from being there and may be a distraction to others. Unless you believe they’ll be a comforting presence to some of the grieving family, it may be best to leave them with a sitter or relative, if possible. If you must bring them, it would be important to have an easy exit if the baby gets fussy or needs attention.
Children between the ages of 3 and 6 are just beginning to grasp the idea of death. Depending on the personality of the child (if they’re able to sit still, be quiet for a period, etc.), you may be able to bring them to funeral homes Arizona or to a funeral. However, unless they ask to view the open casket (if there is one), they should not be forced to do so. They may not be emotionally mature enough to handle it.
A child of 7 or older has a solid concept about the permanence of death. If it makes sense, children of this age can attend a funeral. But, again, this is something that should not be required to do if there are other options for them. Funerals can be emotional and confusing for a young person. They can also get bored. You want to avoid any potential behavioral issues that may arise. You know your child best and how they may react. Having a child attend a funeral is completely a judgement call. But, the decision to have children present at a funeral may also be up to the immediate family of the deceased. If the request is to not have children attend, those wishes should be respected, regardless of how you believe your child might behave.
Teenagers are old enough to go to funeral homes Arizona. However, they may be insecure about showing emotion or crying in front of other people. Other people openly grieving also may embarrass them. If you believe this may be the cause of your teen’s refusal to attend and you would like him/her to go, explain that there will other places to go if the emotion gets to be too much for him or her. A teen can understand that other people might disapprove of their choice not to attend the funeral of a close family member. It’s your task as a parent to let him/her know you respect their decision and will support it.
If you have any concerns about children in attendance of a loved one’s funeral, call Mountain View Funeral Home & Cemetery at 480-832-2850. Our caring staff will gladly assist you.